Muscle Memory

Muscle Memory is the phrase my daughter uses to describe how her body takes over a task – even if my mind doesn’t think she can do it.  Her body does that because her body has done it so many times that it is no longer something she can think about – she just needs…

Ocean and Daddy Time

        I think the title summarizes my last three days.  Me, SB, the ocean – and a lot of time together……ahhhhhh! The details are our memories. We had a lot of great conversations. We drank a lot of great wine.  We explored this little coast town a bit more. It took several…

Love and Truth

and at the same time, realizing that they are doing the same for you. I am blessed…..and even in that, it is an understatement. What a rough place to be….  

Daddy’s T-Shirt

During our time together, SB has given me two of his t-shirts.  In both cases, we had awoken after a night together when he offered me a t-shirt to wear as we got coffee ready.  And when I would go to take it off, he would say ” you look better in it than I…

Reliving a Memory of An Event Passed

The mind is a funny thing – not always funny ha-ha but funny odd.  Today something popped into my head – a memory that had me smiling to myself. I know where it came from.  A conversation with a kinky friend who was commenting about all of the parties that have ended as of late….

Gummy Worms, Sunsets and Otters, Oh My!

I never come home feeling like I’ve had enough time with him. I guess it’s the way most people feel when they have a person in their life that calms their soul – who creates such an amazing state of relaxation that they feel they have slept for the first time in months – who can…

Girly

“You’re so girly.” I recall the first time he made that comment – a comment in passing to him, but one that struck such a conflict of emotions in me that it took me back a bit. Being called girly was a slur for much of my life – an insult that meant you weren’t…

An Evening of Perspective & Laughter

My work week ended as most people’s do. Picked up a kid from school. Helped get my husband and daughter packed for a camping trip. Dinner with my other daughter and my love SB. You know – the usual. Ok, maybe that last one is not usual for most. It was funny – all of…

Safe Place Needed

After the day I have had, I need aftercare. I seriously have been beaten all day by idiots – by people who have wanted to fight just to get me to bend. I don’t bend. At one point, I was in a meeting with a director who decided that everything was my fault.  I could…

Parenting, Poly, and NRE

“OMG, can you believe he broke up with her saying ‘you just aren’t who I thought you were’? After four months, he decides that!?!  What a jerk!” DJ’s friend of 10 years just had her first high school relationship end.  When DJ got the story, she launched into the above response.  We were in the car…