S is for Self-Righteous and Siblings

I love my family – I really do.  Yeah, we haven’t been able to have much control over the crazy in-laws that have married in, but generally speaking, we are all good.  We have our ups and downs and all, but we all would cast those things aside in a second, if it meant we…

The Hill to Die On

An old network manager who was my peer for years at a previous company used to ask a trick interview question to see if people truly understood what he was really asking.  He would ask: “Which is the best OS – Unix or Windows?” What he truly wanted as an answer was “it depends on…

It’s Easy!

Phrases I hate – “but your relationship – it’s easy!” Why do I hate it? Because it’s not fucking easy. You see, just because I make my relationship with G look easy does not mean there is no work behind the scenes. It does not mean there are no compromises.  It doesn’t mean there are…

“Where My Ladies At” Video

I love this video.  I love what is speaks to in terms of how women are treated if they have an online presence and are outspoken in areas of Science, Technology, Engineering and Math.  Hell, online is just one place it happens (says the woman who once at an interviewee say ‘wow, they have girls…

Recharge Yourself

Funny how yesterday I wrote about Feeding Your Soul, and today I feel included to talk about recharging. Recharging has not only been near and dear to my heart and on my mind as of late, but it’s funny how something can smack you in the face and put you in a position where you…

Out of Context

I have a very strong rule against engaging with stupid people on Facebook. Why? Because there is no point.  It’s just another way of being stupid in public, if you will.  And I won’t do it. But yesterday, I had to do it.  Why? Because someone was getting people all riled up by totally taking…

I’m Not Willy Wonka

This needs to be on display on the back of my monitor so that when people come up to talk to me they are not surprised but warned. I came back to the office and was handed back an undone to-do list including three critical defects in production that should have been handled over the…

Feminists Battling Feminists: A Rant

One of my biggest pet peeves, if you believe it, is when women fight with other women – publicly – about how they should behave on the Feminist Spectrum. What IS the Feminist Spectrum (my name, btw)?  It is the spectrum that exists for feminists – where one end is an extremist about it while…

A Rant: My Friendship Warning

note: I have been dealing with a shit load of passive aggressive behavior lately from someone in the community.  This is my way of venting my frustrations about the situation without getting into what has happened. I think you, my dear readers, are smart enough you can fill in enough blanks.  Regardless, this is my…

Marriage Equality

This is a big deal for me.  People I love and care for are affected by what is going to happen today and tomorrow in the Supreme Court.  They are going to hear arguments for marriage equality. I don’t care what your orientation, sex, gender, religion, whatever – you should be able to marry the…