“I don’t know why I’m nervous,” I thought as I was driving to the club for the kink party. I tried to remind myself that it was nervousness like when I was playing softball – not scared but anxious to just get things started because I knew once there, all would be fine. But…
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The Good Pain
His toy bag was starting to resemble the carpet bag in Mary Poppins. No matter what he pulled out of it, there seemed to be more inside – a never ending bag of toys. “How long has it been?” he asked as he kept pulling toys out and putting them on the bed before me….
The Charm of the Forbidden
When I read this quote, my thoughts moved straight to some things SB and I have discussed in the dark – curled up together as we touch and stroke each other. The forbidden is what makes kink, well, kink. Walking that line – going into the dark places – exploring the things most would find…
Delayed
Everyone has been talking this week about con-crash. The inevitable effect of too much time immersed in the community then being tossed back in the real world. I didn’t have it. I was hurting too much. I didn’t care about anything but fixing shit. Learning from shit. And trying to figure out how to function…
How to Fuck-Up an Open Relationship without Really Trying
I’m watching a lot of self-destruction happening lately in relationship that are open relationships. So I figured why not make a list of what I’m seeing. If you recognize yourself in this list and you are “open”, you may want to reconsider. 1. Lie. Simple enough. Don’t be honest about what you are doing. Omit…
Motivation to Read
“I noticed you are reading Sherlock Holmes,” he wrote, “so I must inquire if you are a Sherlockian.” I had mentioned in something I wrote on Fetlife that I was reading Sherlock Holmes. Little did I realize that one of the men I gave a New Year’s kiss to at a kinky party was going…
Open Relationship Drama
Friday, I tweeted the following: Advice to people in open relationships: you can still cheat especially if you FUCKING LIE to both the spouse & other person.#dramasucks People speculated why I was saying it. Now you get to hear the story. Once upon a time, I was at a kink event where I heard “Hey,…
Never Pinch a Sadist #2
A couple weeks ago, Veronica at ASM suggested that Never Pinch a Sadist may be a good name for a book on BDSM. I thought it might make a good name for a series of posts about BDSM from my perspective. I thought I would use this one to talk about my dilema with SG….
Never Pinch a Sadist
The lovely and beautiful Veronica at ASM commented the other day that “Never Pinch a Sadist” would make a great book title for an intro to BDSM book. What a great idea for a series of blog posts, I thought. The first one will be something I spend time doing each and every month at…
