Black, Red, and Fluorescent

About a month ago, I was at the local munch talking to this person and that person when the subject of a kink party being held at a place in town that is traditionally not kinky.  The owners had solicited the help of some key members of the rope community to get it going, and…

What I Needed Tonight

After getting into the kink scene, I got pulled into volunteering. Clearly I went willingly given how many things I continued to help with – but it was funny how it played out.  “You are kinky – you are dependable – you must be on my team.” I still do the erotic art ate one place….

Lessons From the Past in Kink

Depending on who you listen to, there is either a witch-hunt going on with a particular member of our kink community or a quest to save future women from consent violations that have lead to sexual assault and rape.  I am really really struggling with staying out of this on-line debate, but with each post,…

Flashbacks While Shopping

“Let’s have Vietnamese Lettuce Wrap thingies this week,” I suggested while we were grocery shopping. “Sure.  I’m going to the butcher counter for chicken and bacon.” I grabbed the stuff I needed.  Cilantro, lettuce, scallions, carrots…. Then I turned to the next bin…. I needed ginger. A knob of ginger. As I sorted through the…

Allegation Bingo In Kink

My friend expressed great shock at the post that went up on Fetlife about a man with whom she had been in negotiations.  The post was written by a woman.  And it followed the usual points…. “I didn’t know if I should say anything.” “I feared the backlash.” “Too many put false trust in this…

Reliving a Memory of An Event Passed

The mind is a funny thing – not always funny ha-ha but funny odd.  Today something popped into my head – a memory that had me smiling to myself. I know where it came from.  A conversation with a kinky friend who was commenting about all of the parties that have ended as of late….

Being Seen

“God you are such a nasty girl,” he growled in my ear, “thank the gods!” Each time he makes this statement, I silently thank the gods myself that I have a Daddy who nurtures that – takes advantage of that – enjoys that part of me.  I’m not some chaste girl from Iowa. I’m not…

T-6 Days

This time next week, I’ll be in Vegas with SB. I cannot wait. When our local kink event was flailing to find a new space after losing the one they had in the past, we started looking around for other options.  Kink event in Vegas? Why yes, that sounds good.  We signed up – got…

Gift

He had commented soon after we got up that play was in our future.  Would I be interested?  I think so, I said – feeling a big hung over, a bit dehydrated, and a bit hormonal.  Truth be told, I was fucking craving a beating.  But moods and lack of sleep simply meant that other…

50 Shades of Reconsideration

This week, Erika Moen put forth a comic on Oh Joy Sex Toy about her thoughts on 50 Shades of Grey.  And honestly, it gave me pause. I have written about my thoughts on this book with the bend being why it isn’t a good representation of a healthy BDSM D/s relationship.  And I truly…