About a month ago, I was at the local munch talking to this person and that person when the subject of a kink party being held at a place in town that is traditionally not kinky. The owners had solicited the help of some key members of the rope community to get it going, and…
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What I Needed Tonight
After getting into the kink scene, I got pulled into volunteering. Clearly I went willingly given how many things I continued to help with – but it was funny how it played out. “You are kinky – you are dependable – you must be on my team.” I still do the erotic art ate one place….
Lessons From the Past in Kink
Depending on who you listen to, there is either a witch-hunt going on with a particular member of our kink community or a quest to save future women from consent violations that have lead to sexual assault and rape. I am really really struggling with staying out of this on-line debate, but with each post,…
Flashbacks While Shopping
“Let’s have Vietnamese Lettuce Wrap thingies this week,” I suggested while we were grocery shopping. “Sure. I’m going to the butcher counter for chicken and bacon.” I grabbed the stuff I needed. Cilantro, lettuce, scallions, carrots…. Then I turned to the next bin…. I needed ginger. A knob of ginger. As I sorted through the…
Allegation Bingo In Kink
My friend expressed great shock at the post that went up on Fetlife about a man with whom she had been in negotiations. The post was written by a woman. And it followed the usual points…. “I didn’t know if I should say anything.” “I feared the backlash.” “Too many put false trust in this…
Reliving a Memory of An Event Passed
The mind is a funny thing – not always funny ha-ha but funny odd. Today something popped into my head – a memory that had me smiling to myself. I know where it came from. A conversation with a kinky friend who was commenting about all of the parties that have ended as of late….
Being Seen
“God you are such a nasty girl,” he growled in my ear, “thank the gods!” Each time he makes this statement, I silently thank the gods myself that I have a Daddy who nurtures that – takes advantage of that – enjoys that part of me. I’m not some chaste girl from Iowa. I’m not…
50 Shades of Reconsideration
This week, Erika Moen put forth a comic on Oh Joy Sex Toy about her thoughts on 50 Shades of Grey. And honestly, it gave me pause. I have written about my thoughts on this book with the bend being why it isn’t a good representation of a healthy BDSM D/s relationship. And I truly…
