My tantra teacher liked to say something similar. If it keeps happening over and over – you have to stop asking why it’s happening to you – and ask what is the lesson it is trying to teach you.
It’s that shift from where you are to where you need to be that is tough.
A dear friend kindly taught me this lesson. I remember it well because I wanted to get angry but, well, that was to avoid the fact he saw what was really happening and not what I wanted which made me uncomfortable.