What I want for my birthday


As he pulled me to give me a hug good-bye, he said into my ear “What do you want for your birthday?”

I I think I even told him I felt it was a loaded question.  I mean, he is a sadist.  There is no right answer to that question or all answers are right – depending on the angle you look at it.

“You don’t even have a pie-in-the-sky wish? Like a gold plated Ferrari?”

It’s funny because how do I explain that it is hard for me to make wishes like that or have birthday lists.  How do I explain that as a kid, making a list usually resulted in uneasy glances between my parents as they try to sort through what they could afford to buy – if anything – on that list.  How do I explain that as a result, I’m like my dad – happy with what I get – usually more worried about what others gets than myself.  How do I not sound like an adult who still feels like that kid – afraid to want material – being happier with what I have.

And while that last one is very Zen/Buddhist or whatever you want to label it, it also saddens me a bit.  While I am not that kid – and my family is not that family in terms of the financial woes – I still can’t bring myself to dream about the what ifs in a way that is not pragmatic. 

Hell, ask G how many times I’ll mention a “what if” that is really feasible – and he ends up buying it for me because he knows I will not.  My first DSLR? It took me 6 months before G finally said “buy it yourself and get what you want – or I’ll buy it for you – but you are buying it.”  I wasn’t wavering back and forth because of the price or because I wasn’t sure what model to buy – but because I kept saying to myself “I don’t need it.”  Ironic now that I cannot imagine my life without it.

So, what do I want for my birthday?

I’m not sure.

Just to be happy. To be healthy. To find normal again. To laugh more than I did last year. To stress less.  And to be with those I care about and love on my day.



Granted, after watching so much Top Gear, I doubt I will turn down a Porche 911 GT2. 🙂

3 Comments Add yours

  1. Bob says:

    As the saying goes (and the song), the best things in life are free especially on a birthday. Not cheesy by any means.

  2. No, no, no! I love Top Gear and you should get a Bugatti Veyron Supersport version! 😉

    Not cheesy about what you want. In fact, it is admirable.

  3. I have an upcoming birthday, too, and the only monetary thing I can think of is large sums of money LOL. Since we’re dipping our toes into the whole house-buying thing in a few years, we know we need to save up now.

    Other things I want? To get paid doing what I love. I would be thrilled if for my birthday I had a few sex toy education workshops get booked. And the only thing I really, really want is time with my husband and dear friends. Unfortunately I don’t think I’ll be getting that one thing this year again. Maybe next year.

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