Never Pinch a Sadist: 50 Shades of Plaid

I am trying to read 50 Shades of Grey. When it first was out, G got me an electronic copy of it. I was in the middle of other books, so it sat undownloaded to my Kindle app.  And then it gained popularity to a point where I could not ignore it. So I downloaded…

Squirmy

“I’m home…ahhh” was the text I received while bike riding Sunday. He was back from vacation.  I had missed him.  His random texts that put a smile on my face.  The coffee dates in the middle of our work day – where we meet at a cafe and hold hands under the table.    It…

Very Right

He smiled at me as we sat, hunched over our coffees in the cafe, knees touching as we spoke quietly.  He reached over as I was retelling a story and stroked my cheek affectionately. I paused in my story and smiled back at him. “You are beautiful when you laugh. You know that?” I glanced…

A Bad Word

Last night, I had a conversation with a friend that went like this: Her: “….and then she made it clear, I don’t want a relationship with you. I just want to be playmates.” Me: “She does know that playmates are a defined relationship right?” Her: “I know….but geesh, did she think I wanted to keep…

Taking What You Want

You sidle up along side me and put your arm around my waist.   “How are you?” you ask simply. I don’t recall how I answer as I am distracted by your hand that is sliding up my spine towards my head. Then I feel your fingers slide along my scalp.  You grab my hair…

Don’t Feed the Lizard

I have spoken a few times about the lizard – that jealous part of the person that can come out in open relationships.  I have realized recently how there is one food the lizard likes to feast on…. ….fear. Last weekend, G and I had our annual blow up.  We had been building towards it…

A Trial Run

I walked into the coffee shop at the agreed upon time and found him sitting in the corner with a cup of coffee in front of him and his nose in a book.  He looked up at the sound of the door closing, his eyes lit up as he saw me, and he carefully laid…

Never Pinch a Sadist #3: Relationship Rules

Just this past week, I have had a two different conversations with people about being in an open relationship and being in poly relationships – and each time, I have added at the end, that my husband and I have no rules. Before I continue, I will ask the question you may be asking yourself,…

Rope Drunk

“Are you ready?” he asked as he came back up to the front to find me.  My volunteer shift was over, so it was my time to go play. “I am. Where are we going?” He led me back to the private room where there was a stripper pole on a stage with theater chairs….

How to Fuck-Up an Open Relationship without Really Trying

I’m watching a lot of self-destruction happening lately in relationship that are open relationships. So I figured why not make a list of what I’m seeing.  If you recognize yourself in this list and you are “open”, you may want to reconsider. 1. Lie.  Simple enough.  Don’t be honest about what you are doing.  Omit…