Advice for those in non-traditional relationships

People aren’t going to understand. And because you may be judged negatively, you may need to come up with a cover story of sorts when talking to others about a partner. All of us in non-traditional relationships have been faced with this challenge. Generally, for us, defining them as a good friend is the easiest…

The Three R’s

Last year, I think it was, I heard an interview with a therapist who gave himself the moniker online “The Angry Therapist”. The Angry Therapist aka John Kim had during his own rebirth had discovered Tumblr one night while alone and angry at all that had occurred in his life – so created a page…

“Let me ask your body”

"Let me ask your body," he always says before he does a series of tests that would, in my mind, never reveal anything – but always did despite my skepticism. In some cases, he will do that before a chiropractic adjustment and have the the "answers" refocus him to another area to adjust without saying…

Adrenaline Induced Insomnia?

“She has the flu” was the message I got from my coworker who was also home sick thanks to his daughter. After being sick for four days, he took her to the doctor just to rule out something big like bronchitis – instead he got the news she had the flu. Which means he likely…

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished.

The words for my next tattoo. Each time I have, in the past, joked about it, something comes up that makes me think maybe I’m not being so cynical. No good deed. I don’t just hand out good deeds – I try to do the right thing. I try to do the thing that I…

Friday Feelz

What I’m Learning: Each time there is a situation in the kink community where someone gets called out for ongoing predatory and abusive behavior, I am always fascinated by the group reactions. I almost feel like I am a social psychologist or anthropologist observing how people are reacting, how reactions affect the group, and how…

Insomnia and Vodka

I am grateful that G has been working on his cocktail making skills as it meant he bought some good vodka. I’m hoping it helps settle my brain or, at least, that it makes my brain too tired to talk. I know some of my issue is that my body’s immune system has been on…

Insomnia and Vodka

I am grateful that G has been working on his cocktail making skills as it meant he bought some good vodka. I’m hoping it helps settle my brain or, at least, that it makes my brain too tired to talk. I know some of my issue is that my body’s immune system has been on…

Change

A couple of years ago, I had to take a Myers Briggs test as part of a professional development class. I had gone years avoiding the whole four letter summary of my personality, and those years of avoidance had come to an end. Without digging through all of my files to find my results, I…