Marks, Kink and Reflections

“You’re dead on” was his comment he left on a post written by a friend of mine.  The post was about how marks left behind in kink scenes are nice but should not be the only measure people have of a scene. The post is fabulous and dead on especially for people like her and…

Art and Too Close to Home

Someone in a group I belong on Facebook posted this cartoon the other day. And it was funny but hit a bit too close to home right now. Impostor syndrome is when someone is unable to internalize their accomplishments, but instead feel they are a fraud that people are someday going to find out is…

Spent

After weeks of planning, I had a shoot today. 2 hours. 7 men. Hopefully lots of great photos. I started my weekend with a new purchase.  My company bonus came through expectedly, so I indulged in purchasing a new iMac with a 5K screen.  My laptop has been overloaded with photos and can barely keep…

Friday Feelz

The Road to hell….is paved with good intentions. This has been my motto at work this week. On Monday, I was blindsided by a cohort who was providing me (once again) feedback on how I need to deal with my team. And (once again), it was framed in the "so hey, you know when you…

Friday Feelz

Sick of the Sick – I’ve had 2 guys on me team get hit with the crud going around. Another guy’s wife was just diagnosed with influenza. Another guy’s mother was diagnosed with influenza and an upper respiratory infection. And this is just the guys in the room with me. Today on our daily call…

10 Random Thoughts

I think the sweater I’m wearing shrunk in the wash. I got a friend request on Fetlife from a guy who has no friends – just follows a shitload of people. I don’t know him – he doesn’t attend anything that I would attend. It makes me wonder a. how the hell did he find…

Wrong Side of A Monday

I think this is the sign I should post on my cubicle today – or wear as a warning to all in my sphere. Even after my coffee, it became clear this morning that today was not a day to interact with people. First sign was in the drive thru getting my coffee. The guy…

The Joys of Managing People ….With a 2×4

I generally tune out those around me at work. Not because I’m a bitch, but because I work in a cubicle environment that can be loud. Over the years, I have learned to just sort of make that background noise as I focus on what I need to get done. Here, the team has learned…

Motivational Monday

Or….is it really motivational for your Monday if I post it after most of the day is over for most of you all? My day got away from me. I blame the financial auditors who came to point out all that my team is doing wrong. Thankfully my years of Sarbanes Oxley (SOX) auditing prepared…

Longing

The place was packed. I mean – PACKED. They were turning people away at the door because the club was at capacity.  It was insane – bodies everywhere.  My job photographing scenes was hindered by the bodies – there were almost too many of them.  I would move 5 ft from one vantage point to…