(my apologies to Dale Carnegie) This post is inspired by a shit load of Fetlife drama that is happening in my little kinky community. As I sit here watching round #2120 of this crap on my Fetlife feed, I decided to write, not a post expressing outrage and sadness about what is happening, but a tongue-in-cheek…
Category: relationships
Wishing To Stay
G used to joke that we needed to purchase several acres of land to live on. And, we would build multiple houses on it where people we care about can live with us. The idea is that we would build our own neighborhood filled with people we wanted to see everyday. Since we have become…
Parenting A Teenage Girl
“How to do you handle it?” The final question at the end of a lengthy private message on Facebook. The parent of a girl that has been friends with DJ since they were six had messaged me asking how we navigate her dating. How much supervision? Do you worry about sex? How do you handle it…
Reaching in Dreams
I remember waking at about 2am. 2am is the time I always wake, or so it seems. Being at the beach was no exception. So at 2am, I am laying there, thinking about how great the weekend had been – thinking about much I still missed SB. No distraction seems to remove the feeling that…
Silencing the Voices
“You are gorgeous. You are erotic. You are worth it.” I don’t recall if those were his exact words, but it doesn’t matter. He said something similar. He also said that he knew others had told me otherwise – made me feel otherwise – but that was bullshit – that was not me. I tried…
Flashbacks While Shopping
“Let’s have Vietnamese Lettuce Wrap thingies this week,” I suggested while we were grocery shopping. “Sure. I’m going to the butcher counter for chicken and bacon.” I grabbed the stuff I needed. Cilantro, lettuce, scallions, carrots…. Then I turned to the next bin…. I needed ginger. A knob of ginger. As I sorted through the…
Three Years Ago
Three years ago, I woke up in his arms. We had come back to my house from a kinky New Year’s Eve party. It was late; we were high on the energy of the night. I invited him to stay the night with me. I remember vividly, standing in my living room, our arms wrapped around…
Words That Make Me Feel
Words that express how I feel better than me…. There are some people in your life that just feel like home. Home feels familiar. Home feels comfortable. Home feels like a place where you can be you – it is safe – it is good – it is true. I am blessed to feel…
Climax and Tears
We went to see the new Star Wars film in a movie theatre connected by a brew pub. It’s a neat theater with a balcony and great seats and sounds. Plus beer and theater delivery of food. Our joke was that our Christmas dinner was going to be burgers and beers and truthfully, it was….
Allegation Bingo In Kink
My friend expressed great shock at the post that went up on Fetlife about a man with whom she had been in negotiations. The post was written by a woman. And it followed the usual points…. “I didn’t know if I should say anything.” “I feared the backlash.” “Too many put false trust in this…
