Strong, Smart & Beautiful – and The Irony of It

The other day, someone I am friends with commented on a post someone made about how horrible they find it when a guy calls them “beautiful”. “What about my intellect,” she asked, “what about how tough I am?” My friend commented that she was always told how smart and tough she was.  No one ever…

Say It

“Have you notice that I don’t say his name,” I commented to G. He nodded.  “I know you don’t – I know why you don’t – but say his name.” At this point, we were talking about DJ.  G had said something, and the only thing that crossed my mind, is what he has said…

Finding calm

  “I don’t know why I’m nervous,” I thought as I was driving to the club for the kink party. I tried to remind myself that it was nervousness like when I was playing softball – not scared but anxious to just get things started because I knew once there, all would be fine. But…

Opposite of PTSD?

Erika Moen posted the other day a comic about the Liberator Chaise Lounger. And I had a flashback – a sexual war story or sorts.  The opposite of PTSD.  Post-sex-syndrome maybe? The sex party we got invited to, I had my own experience with a chaise lounger. I started the night finding the second kinky guy…

Polyamory Resources

A couple of days ago, a woman I had met and interacted with at a munch posted a list of articles she had found about polyamory.  She is young (20 years old) and brand new to polyamory.  She had posted this list to get feedback for so she also had a place to go to…

The Importance of Standards

I remember the first time I had a cock in my ass was in college – I was maybe 19 years old, and G suggested it in the middle of some hot sex.  I had always loved anal stimulation. I discovered that at like 14 when I was masturbating like a stereotypical teenage boy.  I…

A Weird Poly Interaction

G commented today that he loves the relationships he has. He told me all about it. One is a girlfriend. They spend lots of time together. The other is a friendship which allows them to enjoy odd things together. And he said “God, I love how this all works – I love that all is…

A Question Too Close To Home

One of the Facebook groups I am part of had a member ask yesterday for advice.  She wrote the following (my summary): “I need advice.  Seven years ago, I met a guy who lived far away.  We clicked but the distance kept us from dating.  We agreed instead to be friends.  And friends we were.  We…

When Poly Shows Up In Real Life

Earlier today, I read a post posted to a private Facebook group of which I am a part. “My boyfriend informed me today that he is going to start having hookups with men a few times each month.  He’s bisexual has decided he needs that in his life – not just a woman.  I told…

Wishing To Stay

G used to joke that we needed to purchase several acres of land to live on.  And, we would build multiple houses on it where people we care about can live with us.  The idea is that we would build our own neighborhood filled with people we wanted to see everyday. Since we have become…