Exorcising the Beast

Truthfully…..I’ve been sitting on this post for at least 10 days now. I wrote it in response to a lot that I saw and was feeling and was realizing – then chickened out in posting it.  But I feel the need to speak this into the ether – into the universe.  In many ways, it…

Marks, Kink and Reflections

“You’re dead on” was his comment he left on a post written by a friend of mine.  The post was about how marks left behind in kink scenes are nice but should not be the only measure people have of a scene. The post is fabulous and dead on especially for people like her and…

Photos from A Mini Vacation with SB

Subtitled: Don’t Be An Asshole Bunny We went back to a place we had not been for over a year.  We were hoping for more time, but it wasn’t in the cards.  So we took the time we had and went to enjoy the ocean at a favorite place. We drank countless pints of beer….

Fact vs Opinion

A couple of months back, I wrote this post in response to Mayim Bialik’s video where she tackles “open relationships” and does it quite badly.  Many sex educators who understand ethical non-monogamy and polyamory and all spoke out against her video because of how many ways Mayim got it wrong. Two days ago, Mayim posted…

The Bubble Effect

A few songs into the second band’s set, I learned over to make a comment about them.  But instead of finding his ear, I found his mouth. The kiss started out slow and sweet but quickly deepened.  His hands left my waist and went up to my face as I found my back against the…

Life Is Good

Life is good. That’s all I’ve got. I’ve sat down a few times this week thinking, “I should write”, only to realize that, well, I’ve got nothing. I could write about how the first six days of having G out of the country has been.  But honestly, so far so good. I miss him. I…

“I Don’t Know” Isn’t A Bad Thing

One of the chapters in the book “Think Like a Freak” talks about the 3  hardest words to say, in the English language: “I don’t know.” And they talk about how it gets worse the more educated a person gets.  One study had something like 96% of the respondents with post-graduate degrees who thought they…

Too Late

” I feel like I need to apologize. I wish I could apologize.” “Why?” I asked. “Because he was incredibly important to you.  I realize now that I did not let you know that I got it – but I really did not let him know that I knew this.  He cared – he loved…

Sewing and Realizations

There is something meditative about sewing.  The repetitive nature. The following the line of pins. The sound of thread and needle into the fabric. Just like meditation, thoughts start drifting in and out of your head.  Some of those thoughts you just let float by while others, well, others make you stop and contemplate for a…

Unexpected Surprises

Friday night, something popped into my head that made me think of my friend TL. Ah, TL. TL and I go way back.  WAAAY back.  He came into the picture when G and I were doing the swinger thing.  He was playing with a unicorn friend of ours, and she introduced me to him –…