Self Care Is Hard

“Love, take care of yourself.” I have heard this a number of times from a few people the last few days.  And today, I took it to heart. I went home. Since Thursday at 5:30am, I have been focused on getting to my dad, being with my dad, helping my mom, and helping my dad. …

Text Messages and Worry

I had slept like crap last night. After a crazy full weekend,  Sunday night I had received a text message that we all dread on some level: “FYI: Dad’s in the hospital – Mom has the info. Thought you should know.” Fuck.  And – at least they let me know. Calls to all of the…

Adulthood

When I was a child, I remember feeling like time just dragged on.  The school year felt like it lasted more than a year.  The year I had to wait to get my driver’s license seemed to never end.  And that wait until graduation seemed to take forever.  The watched pot never boils, I guess,…

Holidays

The last few days have been crazy. Friday, we loaded up the car and drove to my parents’ house. Saturday, we had the family Christmas – 14 people in the house – 6 kids.  It was a day of eating great food.  It was filled with nerf gun fights and games.  It was filled with…

22

Yesterday marked 22 years of marriage for G and me. We spent the early afternoon watching the Portland Thorn Women’s Soccer team play some great soccer against the Orlando team, earning them a place in the championship game.  Seeing Alex Morgan shut down and pretty much on the ground was a highlight.  (She played for…

6500 Miles

6500 miles. 11 hours ahead of me. On the shores of the Caspian Sea. And I get a call, “WTF should I do??” Oh, FUCK me! His dilemma, 11 hours ahead of me, was to risk the ferry voyage without a pre-issued visa or not.  People have done it both ways – with and without…

Giving Her The Boot

This graphic depicts what happened tonight with DJ. I kicked her in the ass and made her drive herself to taekwondo tonight.  She has shit to do tomorrow night related to her job this summer.  And she’s going to have to drive herself to that too. Tonight she was hemming and hawing over having to…

Spring & Surprises

G’s birthday was yesterday.  And the girls and I pulled off the most spectacular surprise party for him ever.  You see, he is never really around for his birthday.  Usually, he is here or there but not really home.  Seeing the date of this birthday and the rugby schedule and all – I realized that…

Moments in Time

DJ was telling me a few weeks ago that she had a moment where she became acutely aware of exactly how old she was, and in that moment, she had another one of “OMG, I’M NOT READY!!” I laughed at her and told her to get used to it.  It seems that life is made…

Flash Back To The Past

“Hey, grab your permit because you’re driving us to the store,” I told DJ. Her response was funny.  A month ago, she would have hemmed and hawed and dragged her feet, then insisted we just drive.  But three weeks ago, she started formal driver’s education classes.  Two weeks ago, she started driving with someone other…