When G and I opened up our relationship, we were clear to each other – we were having fun not replacing love – or looking for love.  Why? Because we had this notion that if we were looking for love that it meant that we were missing something in our own relationship.  We had heard stories throughout the years about people doing this for the wrong reasons with dire consequences, so it was critical – to us – that we were not doing this as a “fix” to our own relationship.

Our fear of this “fix” issues drove us to communicate more than a normal couple would communicate. We were clear in defining boundaries.  We were clear in defining our feelings.  And we were clear with making sure nothing replaced anything else.

Fast forward….

We both found ourselves in relationships with people we care about – people whose company we enjoyed outside of just sex – and people who were become part of the