Words Can Always Hurt You

“Tell a woman she’s beautiful, and she won’t believe you.
Tell a woman she’s something negative, and she’ll never forget it.”




Words leave echoes in your heart and mind.  While sometimes, the echo is quick to return back to the listener – other times, it take a while.  And when the echo returns, it makes the heart ache.

Words hurt.  Word never get unheard.  Words in that echo can blindside you and send you to a place where it is impossible to escape.  Anger doesn’t do it.  Sadness only accelerates it.  It is like a pull – a pull into a black hole of self examination and belief even when sometimes words should require neither.

Hearing a song this weekend brought forth the echo of something someone said to me once.  And in that moment, I was transported back to being 14 and wonder what is wrong with me.  My self esteem is shattered. I feel broken – like a broken girl.  I feel like I need to change.  


“I don’t find you attractive.” were the words that send me back there. I’m attractive enough to be the ear when needed. I’m attractive enough to joke with. I’m attractive enough to have beers with. But I”m not attractive.  

It makes me wonder if I’ll ever be attractive.
A friend of mine said she used to tell her husband while they fought to just hit her instead of using words on her.  “The bruises heal – I cannot unhear the words.”

And that is how I feel.  I cannot unhear the words.  I can’t put them to rest either. I can quiet them at times, but when I am quiet and they come back loudly, I cannot resist their pull.  The blindsided way they come at me catches me by surprise and I can’t react quickly enough.  

Words hurt.  

Words don’t go away even after they are released into the world.  Politician and others should know that one – but even the “common people” should know that.  Bones heal.  Those wounds inside don’t easily heal.

Be careful about how you use your words.

And know that using them incorrectly can cause more pain in the receiver than you can ever imagine.
r – other times, it take a while.  And when the echo returns, it makes the heart ache.

Words hurt.  Word never get unheard.  Words in that echo can blindside you and send you to a place where it is impossible to escape.  Anger doesn’t do it.  Sadness only accelerates it.  It is like a pull – a pull into a black hole of self examination and belief even when sometimes words should require neither.

Hearing a song this weekend brought forth the echo of something someone said to me once.  And in that moment, I was transported back to being 14 and wonder what is wrong with me.  My self esteem is shattered. I feel broken – like a broken girl.  I feel like I need to change.  

A friend of mine said she used to tell her husband while they fought to just hit her instead of using words on her.  “The bruises heal – I cannot unhear the words.”

And that is how I feel.  I cannot unhear the words.  I can’t put them to rest either. I can quiet them at times, but when I am quiet and they come back loudly, I cannot resist their pull.  The blindsided way they come at me catches me by surprise and I can’t react quickly enough.  

Words hurt.  

Words don’t go away even after they are released into the world.  Politician and others should know that one – but even the “common people” should know that.  Bones heal.  Those wounds inside don’t easily heal.

Be careful about how you use your words.

And know that using them incorrectly can cause more pain in the receiver than you can ever imagine.

1 Comment

  1. But there are two sides to this issue. The side of what was said, and the side of what was understood. Until there is balance on both sides of the equation, the words really have no meaning….

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