Good Friends Dig Shallow Graves

I was recently talking to a friend who commented I was on his short list for those he would help bury a body. I laughed because he was the second or third person who had told me that – a nice feeling that I have friends who would do such a deed. It did make me think however what a difference a year makes.

Twelve to eighteen months ago on this blog, you would have read how it has been too long since I had true friends – not just acquaintances. I knew a lot of people – but never felt as though I had someone who would help me in a time of true need – like having a body to bury. Today, I don’t feel that way at all. I have friends who I feel are true friends – people who don’t just take – but also give. People who when they hear “I’m fine” will actually call bullshit on me when they know I’m just giving an answer. Friends who seem to know what I need to hear before I even realize it.

I truly feel blessed with those in my life. I don’t have any vampires – people who just suck the life out of you and leave you dry (and not in the good way). They have all gone away. No people are left who I have to have my guard up. I don’t have to wonder when they will screw me over and showed me what our friendship really meant to them. In their place, I have people that truly care. No one is keeping score. No things is out of balance. No one has a hidden agenda. It is such a refreshing change.

The great irony is where I seemed to find these new friends. Most of the people are those we have met since we opened up our marriage – a wonderful side effect of the whole decision. Maybe it has happened because I don’t have anything I feel I need to hide from these people. They see me – all of me – for who I am – and they like me. They don’t just see the part they can see or want to see – or I want them to see. I can be who I am, and people enjoy it. Some of them even read my blog – another thing I haven’t needed to hide or worry about.

I’m glad my friend made that comment to me the other day. While I have felt incredibly blessed to have these people in my life as friends, it took that statement for me to realize how far I have come. To see how much things have changed for me – to see how much having people around me like this who have changed me.

As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. -Marianne Williamson

7 Comments Add yours

  1. Sa says:

    Your posts always make me think or smile, and this one did a bit of both. 🙂

  2. Chapter Two says:

    vampires- I like that term. I am going to use it.

    I too have finally found some wonderful friends- it has occurred for me because I opened my mind up and was able to let go of some of the things that were causing me to hold on to the old ones

    p.s. time to start blog reading again- perfect place to start -HERE, thanks

  3. DCHY says:

    Yes, I know what you mean. I found a best friend through blogosphere. 🙂

  4. Vixen says:

    Having those type friends in your life is awesome and important. The vampires….I always rid myself of them as soon as I realize that’s what they truly are.

  5. De-lurking for this post.

    It made me smile and contemplative at the same time. Glad to have stumbled on your blog, oh-i-don’t-know-when!

  6. Great post.
    Glad you found some true friends. 🙂

  7. I am glad that you are in a happy place with your friends. I am also proud to be one of them.

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