Whispers in My Mouth

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I love kissing.

Lips meeting – tongues exploring – the building of urgency – the hope of more than just a kiss. 

A playmate once commented that he could always tell how the sex would be from the kiss.  If it was timid, sex would be the same. If it were aggressive, the aggressiveness wouldn’t stop until both people collapsed fully spent.  For him, he always gauged it from the kiss as to if it would work out.

And I will have to say I agree with him.  One playmate I’ve had kissed in the most unpredictable ways.  I always felt like I was off kilter with him – unsure of what I was doing or what he was doing.  Sex can be similar. We have fun – but there is no flow.  Lots of fits and starts.  And I am left wondering if I should lead more or follow more. Cause going with the flow is almost impossible. 

Another playmate likes to aggressively take what is his – he is leading, and I am following but willing to meet his kisses with my own aggressiveness.  We have a way of almost getting a rise out of each other – even with our tongues.  And that always translates to the same in bed.

Another playmate is sweet, yet demanding.  He makes his intentions clear.  He loves kissing – he loves that connection and reconnection as our play has twists and turns.  I knew from the moment I kissed him we would have fun. We just sort of clicked from the moment our lips met.

There have been others, but you get the idea.  And this observation for me applies to men and women I’ve played with.

Kissing translates to sex pretty directly in my experience.  It is why a good kisser can get me so turned on that it is unbelievable. Good kissing takes my mind to the good sex that will follow.  And as the Chinese proverb says:

“Kissing is like drinking saltwater; you drink and your thirst increases.”

7 Comments Add yours

  1. Vixen says:

    What a good analogy! I *LOVE* to kiss. And if the kissing sucks, I lose interest. And kissing, being kissed during sex just makes it that much better. Especially when it’s demanded of me and I can tell I’m wanted as much as I want them.

    Love this post! xo

  2. I agree. I think kisses reveal a lot.
    I’ve not gone on follow up dates if the first kiss was terrible.

  3. Aurore says:

    I love that proverb. I’ve never actually thought of kissing in these terms but now that I look back – it’s quite true. I love it when you just don’t want the kissing to end.

    Kissing just seems to be the topic of conversation everywhere these days 😉

  4. Joker_SATX says:

    I agree with this. I am curious as to how you rate your partner’s kisses and what some turn offs may have been…..

  5. Maggie says:

    I’m a sucker for a good kiss. In fact, a good kisser can get me in all sorts of delicious trouble.

  6. Bella says:

    mmmmm, kissing. I’ve been told that I’m a passionate kisser and I like the same in a lover. Passionate kissing equals passionate sex.

  7. Ms Scarlett says:

    A bad kisser is a total deal breaker.. but a good one? Oh, baby… game on.

    I absolutely agree that the sex is usually very much like the kissing… but every now and then I’ve been surprised… usually in a good way.

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